Focus On the Family – My Children & I
One of the greatest gifts that God has given to man is the gift of children. To see little children around you that bear your DNA is such a wonderful and joyous thing. People desire to have children and those who do not have children cry out to God every day to give them the opportunity to be parents. In 1 Sam 1:10 Hannah in bitterness of soul wept much and prayed to the Lord for a son and promised to give him back to the Lord for all his life. Children are a joy to have, they are a blessing from God.
“A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world” — John 16:21
Children are a huge responsibility. The thought of this responsibility is frightening to imagine that we hold the key to whom they will become.
“Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, are sons in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.”
Every single life, every single child, is a reward and blessing. Whether they’re bringing parents pride and joy, or whether they are teaching us how to be more patient and forgiving, children are a gift from God and a source for the growth of His Kingdom here on Earth!
Our concern about children must match God’s treatment of them.
“See to it that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my father in heaven.”
God has assigned angels to watch over children and they have direct access to Him. God listens to the cries and prayers of children. Children should not be neglected, ignored or aborted; allow the children to come to you just as Jesus did in Mark 10:14 when he said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
Jesus was often accused of spending His time with less important people like tax-collectors, sinners and children. But Jesus knew where the heart of the Father is. That is why He said the kingdom of God is for those who are like the little children. We want to spend time with those we consider important. We spend time with friends, at work and with everyone else except our children. We assume that children will be happy in good schools, riding in good cars, having the latest toys and games or living in palatial homes. All these are good things, but they cannot be exchanged with the lives of our children. We need to secure our children’s lives by teaching them the ways of God and modelling lives that are godly and worth emulating.
Train a Child
Good children don’t just happen they are trained to become good, that is your responsibility.
“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
2 Kings 5: 1-19
A Syrian commander named Naaman was sick with leprosy, a little girl who had been captured by his army served his wife as a slave. One day she spoke to her mistress and said “If only my master would see the prophet who is in Samaria! He would cure him of his leprosy”
Many times, we read this story and focus on Naaman and Elisha and forget this little slave girl. She did not need to say anything after all she was a slave. But this girl had been trained well, she had faith. She probably had seen the prophet Elisha heal other people. Her character;
- She was a faithful child filled with compassion, who had taught her?
- She was a benevolent Stolen from her dear parents, she was now a poor slave. Yet instead of anger against her master, she felt only love and kindness.
- She was a truth-tellinglittle girl, or her master would not have left his home, and taken with him gold, silver, and garments, and have gone a journey of one hundred miles, merely upon her word.
- She was a spiritual She had not forgotten the prophet who had power to heal. She was a little missionary.
Do we teach our children values and virtues that will make them stand out? Are we a role model for them?
The Greatest responsibility you have as a parent to your children is to give them time. If you claim to love your children, please Spend Time with them. They don’t care about your money, they need you more.
- Give your children Identity: Be their role model by being a good citizen who genuinely loves and does not hurt. Be available for them to see and hear. Answer their questions.
- Give them the Correct Biblical Perspective of life. The world is teaching them on every minute new ideologies, behaviors etc. Who will teach the right things if you are not there to correct them and teach the truth?
- Give leadership: Does your home have its beliefs, or your children can pick the neighbors philosophy of life because there is no leadership at home?
- Be there for your children to Know you. Are you a stranger in your own home? Has your child ever called someone else mummy or daddy?
- Pray with your children and for them: Let your children know that there is a God in heaven who protects them and provides for them. Teach them to wait on God.
- Cultivate or foster good communication with your children. When you are there, your children will always trust and feel secure around you. They will share with you their secrets.
When your children become adults, what memories will they carry with them? Will they remember the caring and loving mum and dad who hugged them and shared life or will they be glad to finally come out of slavery?
Let me share with you a letter;
Dear Mum and Dad,
There are not enough words in the world to describe how thankful I am for you. You both have helped turn me into the woman I am today. We have always had a close relationship, but since I have been in college, I have truly realized how lucky I am to have you both in my life. There are a million things I could spend time thanking you for, but here are a few that have meant the absolute most to me.
Thank you… for always supporting me in my educational journey. I would not be at the University College if it was not for you both. You allowed me the opportunity to make one of the biggest changes in my life, and you supported me 100% during the process. Even though I love it here, every day is not perfect. Thank you for always listening to me complain and vent on the phone when I need an ear to listen to me.
Thank you… for being there when I had a broken heart. You two were the ones who were there when I was crying in the middle of the night and feeling like the world around me was ending. You both were the ones that tried to constantly put a smile on my face. Dad, thanks for taking me to see Lion king, even though you did not want to see it, because you knew it would get my mind off things. Mom, thanks for always reminding me that it’s okay to be sad, but not to let it control my life. You both have made me realize the kind of man I deserve.
Thank you… for always trying to make special memories with me that I will remember for the rest of my life. Dad, thanks for the countless game drives we have gone to over the years. You have instilled in me a love for the wild that will never go away. The memories we have created during these special father-daughter outings will never be forgotten. Mum, thank you for all the road trips we have gone on. I know that you work very hard on planning them and trying to make sure I have a good time. I would never trade in the memories of us singing in the car or you yelling at me because I’m not paying attention to the directions.
Thank you… for giving me a brother. Even though Chris and I may fight and not get along all the time, he is one of most important people in my life. By giving me a brother, you have given me a friend for life.
Thank you… both for being two of my best friends. The older I get, the more fun we have together. Whether we are driving in the car, going shaggs, out on holiday, or just sitting at home, you two know how to make me laugh more than anyone else. I would have never thought I would be saying you two were some of my best friends, but here I am, at 21 years old, proudly saying that.
Thank you both so much for everything. I love you more than you will ever know.
Your loving daughter, Nina
God bless you.
Rev. Julius Wainaina